We all know that falling in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. For me, last year was a challenging one. I was having a lot of trouble with my mental health and was depressed and anxious. I questioned how other stunning, accomplished ladies did it as I peered around me. How do they stay so happy all the time?
I wanted to learn the answer and share it with other women who, like me, desired happiness and wellness. I decided to put my creative juices to work and put together a resource that anyone could use. What are your self-care mantras and routines?
They told me something that was both ground-breaking and an obvious truth. I know you can practice them if I can. The connection you have with yourself is the most significant one you will ever have. But for so many of us, a connection with a man is the only thing that makes us feel complete.
Not only is this unhealthy, but it is also blatantly backward. You will never experience joy with someone else if you can’t find it for yourself and in your own life. You must learn to feel at ease on your own. Happiness comes from within; it is not dependent on others.
1. Quit evaluating yourself against others
Comparing yourself to others comes naturally to us since we are socialized to be competitive. However, it might be harmful. Since there is just one of you, there is simply no purpose in comparing yourself to anyone else on the earth. Instead, concentrate on you and your experience. Your sense of freedom will be aided by the energy change alone.
2. Ignore what other people think.
Don’t worry about what people think of you or what they anticipate of you, in that same vein. This is a waste of time and will only cause you to go more slowly toward being the best version of yourself because you cannot keep everyone happy.
3. Expect mistakes to happen to you.
From an early age, we are taught that “nobody is flawless, everyone makes errors.” But as you age, you feel more pressure to succeed at all costs. Give yourself a break! Make errors so you can learn from them and improve. Accept your past. You are continually evolving and developing into the person you are now.
4. Keep in mind that your worth is not dependent on how you look.
This is important! The world is full of things that want to divert your attention from this important truth. Sometimes your feelings of inadequacy are confirmed by your own internalized misogyny. Not your physical appearance, but who you are makes you valuable. Wear anything you feel comfortable in. If it’s a lot or a little, wear whatever makes you feel good about yourself, at ease, and joyful.
5. Do not hesitate to let go of harmful individuals.
Not everyone accepts accountability for the energy they release into the universe. You may need to distance yourself from someone if they refuse to accept blame for the toxins they are bringing into your life.
6. Consider your anxieties
Fear is a normal and human emotion, just as making mistakes. Recognize your fears rather than reject them. Your mental health will benefit greatly from this beneficial practice. You might get insight and uncover life issues that were causing you to worry by questioning and analyzing your anxieties. That in turn may lessen some of your tension, if not all of it.
7. Have faith in your ability to decide well for yourself.
Even if most of the moment we do know in our guts what is best, we so frequently doubt ourselves and our capacity to act morally. Keep in mind that your emotions are real. You are not becoming detached from reality. Be your best ally since you are the only one who truly understands you.
8. Seize any chance that comes your way or make your own.
There will never be a perfect time to take your next significant life step. Even though the circumstances may not be ideal, you shouldn’t let that stop you from achieving your objectives and aspirations. Instead, take advantage of the time because it might not come again.
9. Prioritize yourself
Do this without feeling guilty. Women in particular can get used to putting other people before themselves. There is a time and place for this, but it shouldn’t become a habit that compromises your mental health. Discover what relieves stress for you and set aside time for it, even if it means
10. spending the day in bed.
You can seriously tire yourself if you don’t relax and recharge.
Feel both sorrow and joy as thoroughly as possible.
Embrace all of your feelings. Don’t place boundaries around your emotions; lean into the pain, and savor the delight. Similar to how fear helps you comprehend yourself, pain and joy are emotions that will let you realize that you are not your sensations.
11. Show bravery in public
Make it a habit to voice your opinions. The more you exercise boldness, the more it grows. Don’t wait for approval before settling in at the table. Join the discussion. Please add your ideas. Take initiative and remember that your voice matters just as much as anyone else’s.
12. Ponder the beauty of the modest things
Try to take attention to at least one lovely, minute detail each day. Note it down and express your gratitude for it. You need gratitude to help you find joy since it not only provides you perspective.
13. Take care of yourself.
Don’t add your criticism or nasty comments to the growing list of them around the globe. Don’t be cruel to yourself; instead, be good to yourself. Gratify yourself. You’ve developed a lot and come a long way. Remember to celebrate yourself throughout the year, not just on your birthday!
Even if you don’t feel hugely effective, consider your progress and resilience. You are alive and incredibly strong right now, where you are. Also, practice self-compassion. Self-love might not come easily. But it will eventually get ingrained in your heart. Yes, you could suffer, but when you look back on these times, you’ll realize that they served as milestones on your path to becoming the best version of yourself.