You’ve got a new boyfriend? Congratulations!! He makes you feel butterflies in your stomach, and you just feel like talking to him every minute of the day. That is amazing!! He holds your hands in public and looks at you like you are the only woman in the world. Fantastic!!! Do you love him? From how he makes you feel, you can already tell that you have fallen madly in love with him. The question now becomes: Does he love you?
Before you decide to interpret the fact that he tells you every second of the day that you are the most beautiful girl alive as him being in love with you, maybe a short definition of love can help you. One of the most genuine definitions of it is that love is when you build each other up, while still leaving the necessary space for pain and room for change.
While you may be dying to hear him say those three important words, ‘I love you’, to clear your mind, you can simply ask him. But then, action speaks louder than words, and you can actually tell if he loves you by his actions before he even says it.
Love is lovely, but it can be perplexing at times. But for you to be perfectly sure, if you notice your partner doing any of the below things, there’s a solid chance that he genuinely loves you.
1. Good communication bond with you
Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship. If he is not talking to you about his activities and what is going on in his life, there is a high possibility that he is talking to someone else. Someone who loves you will always be curious to know more about you.
They will always want to know what you are doing and how you are doing, and they will talk about everything and anything with you. If he does, then he truly loves you. Because devoting some of your time to someone may sound simple, but it can be difficult if there is no love involved.
2. He’s always genuinely happy for you
Your discomfort bothers him more than it bothers you, and he will do anything to put a smile on your face. Your happiness makes him genuinely happy and will make sure that you are happy.
3. He does things for you when you least expect them
Surprising you with thoughtful gifts, sending you sweet text messages. Dropping you off regardless of the distance, and keeps calling you to know if you’ve gotten to your destination when you are not with him. Genuine care shows love.
4. He sees a future with you
Everyone loves to talk about their plans once in a while. If he talks about his and adds you to it, it means he sees you in his future and this can show that he truly loves you. Because no matter how much you both love each other no one can plan their future with someone they don’t love.
5. He wants you to spend time with him, his family, and friends
Family is the most important aspect of everyone’s life, and if he loves you, he’ll want to include you in all aspects of his life. Introducing you to his family may be difficult at first, especially if his relationship with his family is unsettled or rocky, but he definitely will if he loves you, because no matter what they will always be a part of his life. If he treats you differently around his family and friends, ask him the reason why. If he’s really in love with you, he’ll be proud of you no matter whose company you’re both in.
6. He loves you if he doesn’t hurt you
There is a saying that ‘hurt people, hurt people. But sometimes it may not be the case as some people just derive joy in hurting others, even those who claim to love you. Run away from guys who say that they are doing hurtful things “because I love you.” Abusive behavior isn’t limited to physical violence. If your boyfriend loves you, he will treat you with respect. He won’t degrade you, call you names, or put down your accomplishments.
7. If he notices the little things
It is always a good thing when your boyfriend compliments you. But a genuine and sincere statement about how you’re wearing your hair, your new nail polish, the smell of your new perfume, and your new dress can mean big things. These little things are all representations of love because they mean he’s listening and observing you even when you don’t think he is. And there is no greater representation of love than this. Because he can easily tell what you can do and what you cannot do.
8. If he makes you his priority
This without any doubt shows that he considers you a special person, and a special person means extra attention, extra effort, and being on top of the priority list. He pauses his favorite game to listen to you when you talk, leaves a football match to sort things it with you when you both have a misunderstanding, and leaves spending time with the boys to nurse you back to health when you are sick, when he goes the extra mile, never to make you feel neglected. If he does this, then that dude loves you, dear.
9. He forgives you
Love can never exist without forgiveness. Because you both are two different individuals you will always hurt each other unintentionally. If he loves you, he can’t stay mad at you for too long without regretting it. He can go as far as making the first move to apologize even if he’s not wrong the at fault, just because he can’t stand not being at peace with you or not talking to you for so long.
10. He tells you his secrets
It’s a known fact that men are usually secretive and avoid emotional discussions. If he tells you his darkest secrets and isn’t afraid to be emotionally vulnerable to you, it’s a sure sign that he loves and trusts you. That is a level of closeness that he may never share with anyone else. A guy who has nothing to hide is better than someone who tends to be very mysterious and sketchy. If he opens up to you about things he would never even dare tell his closest friends, then it means he trusts you and really loves you.
Over to you
I believe you’ve been able to see how to test your boyfriend’s love for you with the signs listed above. Do you still need to take the “does my boyfriend truly loves me quiz?” no you don’t have to do so. Always revisit this guide to know if your boyfriend still loves you and when there’s anything wrong in the relationship that you’re not comfortable with, do not hesitate to let him know so there can be a fix.